Happy Friday everyone!
Today I’m proud to offer you a guest blogger. Say hallo to the fabulous Cas Webb from http://www.meandmessy3.com!
Cas has written in her usual open and forthright style about one of those habits that our little angels start up, which we wish they wouldn’t. Good on you for putting it out there, Cas, and I wish you success!
Oh No, He’s Biting!
My little guy is going to be two in October this year. But his sharp lower canines have been sitting half erupted for months. Which means we’re going through a lot of bottle teats as he gnaws and chews on them. But lately this chewing has grown to include my shirt (whilst I’m wearing it) and his cousin’s skin.
His cousin is almost three and more than slightly distressed at being confronted by my son’s gaping mouth.
But there’s no malice in the action, like a puppy chewing on your shoe. So I asked myself what I could do to redirect this behavior and avoid making a mountain out of something that will hopefully only be a phase?
To top it off my son has a very high pain tolerance, my nephew has a very low pain tolerance and most of the time my son tilts his head on his side and just looks at my nephew, kind of like ‘what’s wrong?’
Here’s what ended up in my bite-stopping arsenal:
- Stash of washers, teethers, rusks on hand for my little guy to chew on.
- Some new phrases for my nephew. I’m going to encourage my nephew to say things like, ‘stop,’ and ‘walk away Ryder’ and also encourage my nephew to walk away himself.
- I’m going to be extra mindful and watch for moments when the teeth might come out.
- I’m not going to overreact and give attention to the biter. Instead I’ll try to redirect both kids towards a game or quiet play.
- I’m going to clearly state that biting has hurt his cousin, and request a sorry from my son.
- I’ve considered putting chili or soap in my son’s mouth (something my parents may have done) but that just seems cruel! We have evolved away from those kinds of punishments haven’t we?
And to top all that wisdom off I grabbed my son’s arm and bit him back (disclaimer, I applied pressure with my teeth, without leaving a mark!) The look in his eyes! All of the well-formed words in the world didn’t get this message through.
I had to follow through with a ‘sorry’ and my partner threatened to put me in timeout. Sometimes we have to allow our children to almost touch an oven in order for them to understand that the oven is hot. And most of the time, all good intentions aside, parenting is instinct. I’m not always right, so far this one has worked though!
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